Whats The Difference Between Someone Whos Quiet And Someone Whos Shy?
Bill Gates is quiet and bookish, but apparently unfazed by others opinions of him: hes an introvert, but not shy.
Shyness and introversion are not the same thing. Shyness is the fear of negative judgment, and introversion is a preference for quiet, minimally stimulating environments. Some psychologists map the two tendencies on vertical and horizontal axes, with the introvert-extrovert spectrum on the horizontal axis and the anxious-stable spectrum on the vertical. With this model, you end up with four quadrants of personality types: calm extroverts, anxious (or impulsive) extroverts, calm introverts, and anxious introverts.
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Interestingly, this view of human nature is echoed in ancient Greece. The physicians Hippocrates and Galen famously proposed that our temperamentsand destinieswere a function of bodily fluids. Extra blood made people sanguine (calmly extroverted), yellow bile made them choleric (impulsively extroverted), phlegm made them phlegmatic (calmly introverted), and black bile made them melancholic (anxiously introverted).
Western cultural traditions include a conception of individual variability which appears to be old, widespread, and persistent. In popular form this is the familiar notion of the man of action, practical man, realist, or sociable person as opposed to the thinker, dreamer, idealist, or shy individual. The most widely used labels associated with this tradition are the type designations extrovert and introvert.
This answer originally appeared on this Quora question on Shyness.
7 Perks Of Being Quiet
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People seem to think being quiet is a bad thing. People talk over you a lot, they assume you’re an introvert. Sometimes they just forget you’re there. But, there are also perks of being quiet. Buzz. Feed presents Perks of being quiet.
First off, you say fewer stupid things: That color goes great with your skin: And what does my skin normally look like? No, I just was saying because the..: Yeah, rude.
That color looks really nice on you, Daisha: Thank you! People think of you as being a good listener: Anyway, thank you so much, nobody listens as well as you do: You’re welcome.
Everyone thinks you’re mysterious. You can sneak out of situations you don’t want to be in. And when you laugh, people take it as a sign that something is really funny, because you rarely do. People are blown away when you say something sassy: I mean, did you steal this from Coolio’s tour bus? Finally, when you do talk, everyone takes you super seriously. What we should actually do, is have mini pies and cupcakes.
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