Social Anxiety Brought On By Narcissistic Abuse
Social Anxiety Brought On By Narcissistic Abuse
hi again everybody so we have a question that I got through my messages and this is something I had made a video about in the past but I wanted to touch on it again and this comes in from someone named Lex this is off hi olli been following your channel for a while since three years I man 28 became aware of mine art father and mother and one of your videos on triggers you talk about the pounding on any subject the NART confined on you I became very socially anxious as a result of my parents if you have any experience like that greetings Lex well of course and that’s something that we all deal with is social anxiety brought on by what I call in my video you’re all you’re on trial for life that pounding you know is basically evidence the other the narcissist uses against you to keep you in check and that is so you don’t challenge them so that you they get you to do whatever you want you to do and they can keep their narcissistic world as they want social anxiety is something I believe probably about 90% of us 90 to 95% of us have to deal with because when you’re on trivalent when anything and everything that the narcissist can find has been used against you your entire life especially when it’s coming from your parents how could you be anything else but socially anxious when you walk around you feel like you’re on you are in a trial the trial never ends you are already guilty see that’s the problem so you’re already guilty it’s not even so much to to trial to almost like an endless sentencing hearing and your sentence is a lifetime of being on trial so it’s like a circular type of argument that it’s why you can’t escape it as long as you’re around your narcissistic abusers which is why I constantly impounding no contact no contact no contact so how do we deal with it mostly is because we’re always waiting to be attacked by somebody and the problem is we don’t know where the attack is coming from but we know the attack is good to pick out something about us you know something something somebody doesn’t like about us and even times that you’re not being attacked you might take something as an attack because you are so socially anxious because you are constantly on trial you’re already guilty there’s no being proven innocent no no no no no this is this is a this is basically a sentencing allocution hearing where you know all your quote/unquote victims are now giving testimony on what a piece of garbage you are and it never ends and the sentence is simply you stay on trial for life as long as you gonna stare as long as you narcissistic victim want to stay in my good graces or in my graces at all you are going to be put on trial for life and that’s why we’re so socially awkward and we get to the point where we don’t want to leave our houses we want to sit in a dark Lane we want to be interviewed of it and fighting and fighting for your own being just fighting not to be picked on and fighting not to be you know hammered with every little point that’s that the narcissist can use against you makes you socially anxious makes you want to not meet the people you know and I find something I was finding that I would get more socially anxious when I was with people and everything was going well it’s like wow I’m having a good time you know anything you get that voice that creeps into the back of your head like oh well the attacks gonna come how is this gonna end and this and then you just become very dour and you can almost feel like your personality change on the spot like from one second everything’s fine as soon as that thought pops into your head you just start when you start regressing right there and usually you find an excuse to go home and lock yourself away and because we wants to really deal with that so yeah that’s how we deal with it and that that that does make a lot of sense and that’s why because you’re always on trial the way to deal with it is to cut your abuser out of your life no contact because as long is that when you’ve got to look at your abuser like prosecutors they’re basically prosecuting prosecuting your life and your being and who you are they’re the prosecutor that the judge did the jury they’re the executioner but the trial never ends trial never ends so that’s my opinion on that one I hope you enjoyed it let me know what you think again thank you everybody who’s donated to the Go. Fund. Me account it’s over 3300 almost 70 percent of goal if you can help out the links in the box if you can share our links in the box I appreciate it again I’d love to get it all wrapped up by the end of the month thank you to everybody who’s donated this is Olli Matthews I’ll see you all again real soon..
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