Real Confidence Vs Fake Confidence – And Why Only The Real Thing Attracts The Women You Really Want!

Real Confidence Vs Fake Confidence – And Why Only The Real Thing Attracts The Women You Really Want!

There’s a difference between real confidence and fake confidence.

And in this video you’ll get my take on what I think the difference is and how it affects your ability to attract the kind of women you’re actually attracted to.

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hey it’s Stephan Erdman in this video I’m going to talk about the difference between fake confidence and real confidence or what i would call real confidence vs fake confidence and I wanted to make this video because I notice a lot of the fake confidence around and then notice a lot of strategies for people that people talk about in the so called seduction community that seems to be about creating this to the fake confidence in people how do you notice when something is fake confidence and when something is real confidence well the fake confidence very often comes from the following impulse which is to make women smaller or to dehumanize women for example when we talk about women as numbers like on a scale that she’s a ten she’s a sixties at eight that’s a way of objectifying women and dehumanizing women when we talk about women as targets folks are but that’s another way of dehumanizing women when we basically say stuff like you know women you know they don’t know what they want and doesn’t matter or he’s not going to use the word bitches or this or that you see this a lot of and you see this a lot in the introduction communities that effect blogs and stuff like that that’s where some of the coaches have a lot to answer for because they kind of propagate that kind of thing in a way because it helps a lot of guys that superficially feel more confident around women but basically saying well women are just like you know whatever doesn’t matter what they think doesn’t matter how they feel as long as I can focus on what i want i have to basically assert myself against women because otherwise because it’s it’s all coming from a sort of a hidden inferiority complex and it has nothing to do really well confidence if you feel that you need to put other people down in order to make yourself feel more confident then you are basically falling victim to this fake confidence idea that’s not real confidence and here’s why this is really important because if you get used to this fake confidence mindset and you’re like you know you’re putting women down you’re making women smaller in order to feel bigger in comparison you’re going to be really struggling in the long term to attract the kind of women that you might really fall in love with because you can be closed off you’re not able to really confidently relate in a way that is open that has trust within it that has affection within it that has well the makings of love in it ok so the women that actually could make you the most happy that actually might want to fall in love with you they won’t because actually you’re not somebody that they’re careful enough with because you don’t have any of the of the other side’s to your personality anymore because you’re so used to putting women down it might give you a sort of fake confidence but it will not give you the ability to really honestly openly authentically relate to women yeah you want to aim for a kind of confidence that comes from the inside that is built on connection with other people on what you have in common with other people on what you love about other people when you realize that you can be completely honest and open without having a sort of charade going on without project against of confidence when you actually have just confidence within yourself everything becomes very easy and women me d react positively that because they can see that you are stable that you are calm that you don’t have to put things on and that becomes a very attractive thing to women when you have sorted out your inner game when you have no conflict with yourself and you are just you confident comfortable at your best in any situation without having to project yourself without having to pretend to have a deeper voice you know or you know any kind of other stuff that you sometimes see you guys do especially in the pickup community alright it comes out as being a completely natural person in the end and that’s what real confidence is that attracts women if you want to learn more about the kind of real confidence that comes from the inside I have a program for you that’s called the six week w confidence challenge you can check it out here at the link below the video have a look you can you see it in the description that’s the link you want to click and check out the program is free to try out for seven days and it’s going to teach you everything I can teach you to double your confidence and so that you’re in the game in six weeks on this program alright i hope you liked this video let me know what you think if you have a topic for a new video let me know as well here in the description I catch you later..

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  1. Topic idea: can we ever blame women when conversations go wrong or is it always our responsibility to make conversations go well?


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