Jordan Peterson Shyness And Depression
Jordan Peterson Shyness And Depression
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I’m quite shy and when asked questions in public I find it hard to articulate a good answer but we’ll come up with a strong response hours or days later any advice yeah I have some advice one is that or you’re probably introverted eh so you’re not as verbally fluent as an extrovert would be and not quite as fast on the draw verbally but you know that means you need some more time to contemplate and maybe you’re high in negative emotion too because shyness can be a combination of introversion and high negative emotion it can be one or the other but but technically shy is introverted anyways what I would certainly recommend for you is that if you’re faced with a complicated question especially one that has to do with an important decision in your life that you say I need to sleep on it or I need a couple of days and not to answer on the draw I mean I think that’s true even for extroverts I think if you’re at called upon to offer your opinion about something complex then it’s perfectly reasonable to say look that’s a really hard question I’m not gonna give you a casual answer I need to think about it for a couple of days so the advice would be because you find it hard to articulate a good answer don’t allow yourself to be rushed and the second is to understand that this is part of your temperament there isn’t anything wrong with it it’s just it’s it’s it’s how you’re wired so what causes a person to hoard is due to low conscientiousness what is generally the best course of treatment it’s usually a consequence of relatively high neuroticism and it’s tangled in with disgust sensitivity as well people who hoard have a hard time they feel guilty if they throw things away because the things still have some residual utility the best course of treatment is well behavioral therapy is probably the best course of treatment and to plan what needs to be thrown away and to work with a person that can help you make the hard decisions that that need to be made if you’re hoarding all that all that hoarded material is on its decisions that have been put off so a lot of that is high neuroticism some of that can be a consequence of low conscientiousness as well so the best course of treatment is to find someone to help you plan how to approach the the hoard very complicated so all right which Hogwarts house would you be in well I think I’d have the same issue as Harry Potter when the Hat was first put on it would think that I might make a perfectly good Denison of Slytherin so although that probably wouldn’t be where I would end up so what is your take on an astrological basis for significant dates and religious stories example Christian religion is a parody on the worship of the Sun well it’s certainly not a parody religion religious systems as they expand tend to incorporate everything that’s quasi religious in the culture and there’s certainly no shortage of solar symbolism in Christianity I mean it’s not Floop that that Christ is the Sun and there are 12 disciples just like there are 12 astrological houses and it’s not fluke that the birth of Christ takes place essentially at the same time as as as the shortest day of the year and the rebirth of the Sun all of these things line up now whether that synchronicity or whether it’s the attempt by the collective imagination of human beings to align everything under a single truth that’s a very difficult thing to say or maybe there’s a single truth at work but the idea that Christian religion is a parody on the worship of the Sun is not is definitely not the case it’s more like its incorporated elements of the worship of the Sun over thousands and thousands of years and that’s a very complicated issue if you’re interested in that you could read I on a IO n it’s book by Carl Jung which is like the most terrifying book I’ve ever read and so you could there’s a deeper analysis of the relationship between astrological speculation and and the emergence of complex religious stories so my brother 29 is sick at home with burnout he’s a perfectionist has anxiety has trouble dealing with stress how can I help him become stronger well you could encourage him to go talk to a therapist you could tell him to go find broadly make an appointment with three of them go talk to each one for an hour and if he likes one of them and he finds one who listens then he can go back a couple more times but it isn’t gonna hurt him to go once at least to go talk it’s also possible that he needs someone to talk to him about medication you know antidepressants if he’s in real trouble antidepressants are often very helpful to people not always but often and so that is a lot better taking an antidepressant beats the hell out of being sick at home with burnout and it’s attended dangerous cognitive dangers dangers of stress induced illness dangers of suicidal ideation all that sort of thing I would also recommend that he tried the self offering program if he’s at home he can write about his past he could write about his present he could write about his future he can do a bad job he can do it over days I think that I mean we have evidence that the program is extremely helpful to people and there’s evidence from other researchers that such programs really help so that would that would be something that he could do while he’s sitting at home and it’s not gonna hurt him going over some of the more complex material might make him feel slightly worse in the short term but the long term payoff is very very high so that’s what I would recommend encourage him to go talk to somebody he and he needs to make the planning needs to come to terms with what’s happened to him and he needs to make a plan and he might need to talk to somebody for a long time to figure out what the hell’s going on you know and we also don’t want to rule out neither does he the possibility that there’s something physical wrong you know because there’s increasing evidence that the depressive disorders and that would include anxiety are a consequence of such conditions as as generalized inflammation and that’s really worth looking into so I think a lot of the things that we think are psychological have a more pronounced physical basis so..