If You Struggle With Anxiety, This Mind Trick Will Change Your Life | Mel Robbins

If You Struggle With Anxiety, This Mind Trick Will Change Your Life | Mel Robbins

Living with severe anxiety and panic for most of my life, I never imagined a day where I would wake up without worry, fear, and anticipation the kind that makes getting out of bed seem impossible. I remember staying under the covers hiding from every problem I thought I had, making life that much harder for myself and the people I love most. You don’t have to let anxiety rule your life. Seek the help you need and be open with those who love you. And, when you find yourself in the middle of having a panic attack or chronic worrying, try the technique I discuss in this video. I hope it’s the start of a new appreciation for yourself. xo

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the question was what do you do when you wake up in the morning and you’re having a panic attack but is something I lived with for years and it is terribly to me it’s terrifying I’m so sorry this is happening to you and I want to tell you you can actually get control of it you ready yeah so first things first let me explain what’s happening when your body is in a state of panic okay so that you understand what’s going ever been in a situation in your car where you almost get in an accident yes and immediately when that car almost sideswipe so what happens in your body they just you tense up you have a instant what’s the word adrenaline yes yes like your heart’s racing right and your palms get sweaty in the situation I just gave you your brain has context for what the is going on so your brain goes oh my god we almost just got hit by a car as soon as the car leaves your body starts to slow down doesn’t right what happens when you’re having a panic attack is you wake up in the middle of the morning and your body’s in a state of alert just as if a car almost hit you but the problem is your mind has no explanation for why it’s happening yeah that makes sense that’s far apart yes so your mind gets really scared because your body is now doing something that normally only happens when there’s danger but the products it but there’s no danger but you don’t know the difference so you now wake up and I would get in this cycle where I would literally have panic attack after panic attack and then I’d be afraid of having a panic attack yeah and then I’d have a panic attack so you’re gonna do this when you wake up and you feel that do not lie in bed stand up immediately start your day then as if it’s two o’clock in the morning if it’s two o’clock in the morning yes because lying in bed what with all of that and deep breathing it’s probably not gonna help if you actually get up and physically move your body now thinks what she’s getting away from the danger what I want you to do is come up with an anchor for what is a thot give me give me a Vig describe a place where you feel really happy and centered and grounded watching my grandkids great you’re gonna go 5 4 3 2 1 and you’re gonna have a particular vision of you and your grandchildren super specific and then just say I’m so excited to see them tomorrow I’m so excited every day all right I’m so excited I see them in the morning I’m so excited and what’s gonna happen is by saying you’re excited and by counting backwards 5 4 3 2 1 you interrupt the patterns you’re waking this by saying I’m excited to see my babies and then you’ve got a picture of them your mind’s gonna start to go Oh her Hertz racing because she’s excited to see her babies just keep saying that you’ve got to give your mind an explanation right to get it to calm your body down in the car crash your mind knows what’s happening you’re gonna give it a reason do you understand I do the other thing I want you to know in the back of this book last page right here this is for everybody the book comes with 31 days of video torture sign up for it because I go into panic and anxiety very deeply all that’s happened is for some reason we’ve started to worry and that worry has become a habit and now your body is worrying and that’s now leading to panic we can reverse it okay you’re welcome thank you that’s actually my gift to you ..

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  1. I’ve suffered from anxiety since I was little. As I’ve gotten older, the anxiety has steadily gotten worse. It got to the point where my fear held me in chains to my house because I was so afraid to have a panic attack in public. With my anxiety comes derealization, which is fucking terrifying.

    But, it came to a point where I got up, got moving, and if the anxiety hits I work through it. Its either work past it, or let it run you over and leave you in a state of depression so heavy, chances are you’ll be there awhile…


    When I’m feeling anxious, I remove myself from the situation. Bathroom, etc.

    Its easier said then done..but, I did it. Everyday is a battle, but I’d rather go down fighting..

    Good luck to everyone!!

  2. My panic attacks stopped as soon as I completely let The good Lord have TOTAL control over my life and to continually remind myself what God says in The Word. I would convince my mind that this is the only way I could be at peace. Then The good Lord took over and I am panic free!!!

  3. I have been plagued with the most horrendous anxiety and panic attacks EVER!!! It got to a point where I was very suicidal, I simply could not live with having at least 20 or 30 extreme panic attacks every single day of my life, and even with medication and therapy, it was still happening, I didn’t have panic attacks I would have panic weeks. My BP was shooting up to an average of 210/110, and my pulse was at least 140 bpm, on any given day of the week. My story is much different than most, as I have many many medical issues, having had over 33 life-saving operations since I was 20 (I’m now 49), then facing intestinal cancer three times already, I’ve also had three grand mal seizures, with absolutely no explanation whatsoever, not even the top neurologist can figure it out, so I had to figure something out myself before I lost my mind. Because I have less than 5% of my intestine left, I’m not able to drink, and in this case I think that’s a good thing because I would most certainly have become an alcoholic! I have read volumes on this subject, and found no help so I tried a little research on myself, as I have two masters degrees, one in medical Laboratory sciences, and the other in medical radiation sciences, so I do have a scientific and medical background. I sat down, And listed all of my fears, all of my triggers, and every possible explanation as to why I was having these attacks, along with the depression so deep and so dark that suicide was the only thing on my mind for months at a time. There’s no words I can use to describe the deep dark black hole that I was in, and the absolute hopelessness and extreme sorrow I suffered through, but I knew I had to do something before I ended up killing myself, which I nearly did four times, thankfully all four times I was caught by my family before I was able to go through with it. For those of you who’ve never experienced chronic anxiety and/or depression, it is the worst possible illness I could ever imagine! I was born with several illnesses, as they recently found out, my biological mother was very heavy smoker/drinker/drug addict, throughout her entire pregnancy with me, basically I was the 60s equivalent of a crack baby, I don’t know why she decided to tell me that, because I was adopted at nine months old by a wonderful family give me an incredible life, and I had just recently met my biological mother, it made me appreciate my parents so much more, but I am so pissed off to find out that her actions are probably one of the reasons why I’m so sick. I started off with Crohn’s disease, and over the years, develops 11 chronic illnesses, all associated with my Crohn’s disease, or associated with the treatment for the Crohn’s disease, so I had to come up with a solution to help my anxiety and depression that was specifically geared towards myself. When I first heard of getting the anxiety attacks, just like the women in this video, I would absolutely freak out, terrified for no reason, I’m being terrified because I didn’t know why I was terrified. It’s a vicious circle from which there is no escape, or at least that’s what I thought, until I tried various methods of trying to calm my mind during these attacks. Once I researched it, and discovered some of the causes behind it, I found it for me, I literally just kept saying out loud, “there is no danger, there is nothing to worry about, and there is nothing wrong with you”. I would literally say it’s 20 or 30 times in a row, but will do so with my eyes closed, if possible in a dark room, listening to my favourite classical music, which I’ve loved since a child. Anxiety disorder is a very broad spectrum disorder, affecting hundreds of millions of people and so many different ways, each, with various different therapies. After months and months of reading and trying different therapies, this was the one thing that actually helped, without having to down in entire bottle of medications, something which I do not want to do as I already take over 12 prescription medications every single day just to stay alive, most of which are to treat my Crohn’s disease, arthritis, osteoporosis, degenerative disc disease, gastro-oesophageal reflux disease, short bowel syndrome, High blood pressure, PTSD, depression, plus many others, some of which are a little embarrassing, suffice it to say, it’s taken a huge toll on my sex life as a man. So to the entire world, I begged you all, please never assume somebody is just making it up for attention, suffering from chronic anxiety is literally a fate worse than death, no words can describe just how horrible it feels, there’s so many times I just wanted to jump off the bridge next to my house just to escape feeling so horrible!! And to all those who suffer from anxiety and have not yet found your cure, I promise you it is possible, but I’d like to say that, I found, at least within my own research, the treatment is extremely variable from patient to patient, so please don’t panic if what your doctor gives you does not work, keep trying, because I sure you, there is help out there, and just try to remember with every attack, that although your mind is telling your body to go into the flight or flight mode, that there is literally absolutely nothing wrong with you, but it’s all easily over, with proper meditation techniques/medications/therapies… … It took me quite a while to figure out how to stop it, and while I still have the occasional attack, overall I’ve managed to conquer it. If I wasn’t able to do so, I know with 100% certainty, that I would’ve killed myself along time ago, because the stress, as soon as you know, it’s beyond belief, and I would never wish it on my worst enemy, it’s literally worse than cancer, and I can see that from personal experience, having had three separate bouts of intestinal cancer. Just one more note, I’m not telling you not to listen to your doctors, because they’re there to help you, but I will say that if you don’t like what they’re saying, I don’t quite believe in what they’re still telling you, you’re probably right.Case and point, at 21 my large intestine completely ruptured, I was dead, flat line for two minutes on the OR table, and that’s when they found two cancers tumours growing on the outside of my large intestine, that we didn’t even know were there, because the symptoms of the Crohn’s disease were masking any symptoms of the cancer.Had my intestine not ruptured, the cancer would have spread so quickly I would have been dead in less than six months, and by the time I discovered it was cancer it would’ve been too late, so while doctors knew a lot, they don’t know everything, they based much of what they say on their experiences and what they’ve been taught, but then again, they’ve never encountered someone like me before. That first fight with cancer, when I was 21, left the doctors telling me I had about a 10% chance of survival, The second time, I was 29, and was given 30% chance of survival, and finally the third time, which was just two years ago at the age of 47, I was given a 20% chance of survival, yet I am cancer free and still alive! Believe me, I am not bragging, because there’s nothing to brag about, I’m just very very lucky, as I found out most patients die who were in my situation, the fact that I survived cancer and the suicidal thoughts, is prove to me that the higher power, what I like to call Jesus Christ, you can call it or him whatever you’d like, I’m not trying to push my faith on anyone, but we all need something or someone to look up to for help and for guidance, Jesus did that for me, and then some! Anyways, as always I’ve talked way too long, have faith everyone, please, I know it’s extremely hard to see light at the end of this horrible tunnel, but I promise you, if I can do it anybody can,I wish you all nothing but the very best, I wish you all a very happy, healthy, and long life, and since it’s December, I’d also love to wish you all a very merry Christmas, and a very happy, healthy, and prosperous new year, cheers!

  4. Anxiety is dealt with using mental alchemy. Change your mind. It takes time. But please don’t buy any expensive courses or books to help, they are all just fodder. Use your time and mind to really think about why you are even panicking and you’ll soon feel better. Night stress is normal and many people use that time to figure out new business ventures or method of control

  5. Thank you for this! I started to tear up as soon as the woman teared up because I can SO relate to this. My mind tends to jump to the worst possible situation of “what if”, and it’s so difficult when your mind knows how illogical your fears are, yet at the same time you can’t help but feel the way you do. I am ok now, but when I start to have my bad days I will be sure to try this tip out. Thank you Mel!

  6. Anyone who is suffering from Anxiety, look at your diet. Is it carb or sugar heavy? Are you eating or drinking overly processed things? Scientists are now starting to link anxiety to a LEAKY GUT!!! Take probiotics, fix your diet, start moving around more (I purchased a Fitbit and try to walk 10,000+ steps a day). This works!

  7. I remember I was once searching through all these videos, researching how to get better. If you are wondering does it heal fully? No it wont but will it get much better? Yes! You have to fight it, take control of it, your body will become familiar with the way you control it. When your brain relalizes that it’s okay, it won’t come back anymore unless you let it. Aniexty will not kill you, don’t be afraid and fight it. Been struggling with aniexty since 2012 and I barely have aniexty anymore. I’ve had people talk down about me, degrade me because of my aniexty but I kept strong. I couldn’t even get in the car without triggering my aniexty, my first plane ride was horrible, I didn’t even fly but got off the plane. Yes its hard, but you can do it, have faith. Prayers to you.

  8. Am I the only one who thinks everyone’s anxiety is different and some things work for some and not for others? I personally have anticipatory anxiety (I think I’m going to faint but it has never happened to me or any of my relatives so it’s a super irrational fear) and I’ve been going to therapy for a little over 1 year (one or two months after I started leaving class because of my fear of fainting) and it seems to be working, just letting my emotions and thoughts out, even if they seem stupid, it helps me. Also trying to face my fears of flying on planes and standing up for a long time (this one is really weird) help me realize that it’s all in my head.

  9. Oh God through your son Lord Jesus Christ we ask you to please lift of the demonic strongholds of anxiety from us all!!

  10. I disagree with instantly getting up to tell your mind that youre out of danger. That tricks your brain into thinking that your bed or wherever you are is a danger zone. I know because from 8-17 I would do that and Id run to the bathroom till I calmed down but I ended up getting more panic attacks whenever I was in that area. I finally managed my panic attacks after doing research. I learned staying where you are and breathing while telling yourself its just a panic attack until you calm down helps so much. Also try to force your body to act normal as it convinces your body that nothing is wrong and eventually you will stop having panic attacks or have less severe ones because your brain finally learns its not in danger. I went from having them every night for an hour or more at a time to only having maybe one a week for about 10 mins or so. Definitely research and find what works best for you, it was a lifesaver for me.
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