How To Overcome Social Anxiety | Do This To Make It Easier For You

How To Overcome Social Anxiety | Do This To Make It Easier For You

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How to Overcome Social Anxiety | Do THIS to make it easier for you

Whats up, its Bob from Scandinavia coming at you today with a video on how to overcome social anxiety.

How to overcome social anxiety / How to deal with social anxiety

#1 Practice facing your fears on low stressful situations BUT do it often.

Think of an anxiety scale of 1-100. Now, as I talked about in a previous video going out practicing facing your fears on situations that are about 80-100 often backfires because the only thing we are doing is teaching our nervous system and brain that the situation indeed is very horrible and awful so, we are in essence only reinforcing our fears, and sometimes, even making the fear worse. So tip number one is, practice facing your fears on situations that are ,like for example 10-50 on that anxiety level scale. BUT instead do them often…very often. This is a much smarter way to go about desensitizing fears because it builds confidence at the same time. I can put a link in the description box to the video where I talk more about the idea behind this.

How to overcome social anxiety / deal with social anxiety

#2 Realize that what we say and do does not have to be perfect

When we suffer from social anxiety or even just regular shyness we often feel like what we are saying or doing, somehow is not good enough just because its coming us. But realize that not everything that people say or do has to be super smart, funny or entertaining. Infact, small talk is suppose to be just us saying SOMETHING. Its just mostly crap when you think about it. Spend the next few days thinking about that when you listen to people talk, is everything they say super funny, super intelligent, entertaining and interesting? nooho it is NOT. So why then do we feel the need that everything we say and do have to be perfect? Look, most people like to talk about themselves and just having someone that is quiet and listen to them feels fantastic to them.

How to overcome social anxiety / deal with social anxiety

#3 Realize that you do not need anyones approval

You dont need to explain why you feel or think a certain way. Or why your hands are a bit shaky or why you have the opinions you have. You dont need other people to approve of you. You dont need anyones approval except from yourself. Realizing this is important for feeling OK with yourself.

How to overcome social anxiety

#4 Have a confident body language.

Always try to keep an open posture and a confident body language. You will look more secure and confident this way, but thats not the point. The point is that by using your body like a confident person would it also makes you FEEL more confident. You see how we think affects our bodies and posture BUT it also works the other way around, that is, how we use our bodies also affects the way we feel. So by keeping an open posture you will lower your anxiety levels. Think of someone that is very confident and try to model their way of using the body. It could be someone you know OR someone you have seen on TV. An actor or a politician for example.

How to overcome social anxiety / How to deal with social anxiety

#5 Take the edge of with some extra help

In order to make it easier for you in social situations there is nothing wrong with using anxiety supplements to take the edge of the anxiety. By doing this it will also be easier for you to remember how and what you are suppose to think, in other words the mental tools.

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what’s up it’s Bob from Scandinavia coming at you today with a video on social anxiety before I start I want to remind you to subscribe because there will be more videos on social anxiety here in just a few days ok so you are having anxiety in social situations and you hate that when you come home from social gatherings you are depressed because you feel disappointed at yourself and you ask yourself questions like why do I have to be this way why can’t I be more like others they don’t seem to have any problems I’m not getting any better I will always be like this and social anxiety is ruining my whole life and that’s just the negative thoughts you are having after the social situation in the midst of being in the situation you are bombarded with negative thoughts that are racing so fast through your mind that it’s even hard to notice them one by one well I know exactly how it is because social anxiety is something I’m very familiar with so here follows a few tips a few tips that have helped myself to deal with social anxiety number one practice facing your fears on low stressful situations but do it often very often think of an anxiety scale of 1 to 100 now as I talked about in a previous video going out practicing facing your fears on situations that are about 80 to 100 on that scale often backfires because the only thing we are doing is teaching our nervous system and brain that the situation indeed is very horrible and awful so we are in essence only reinforcing our fears and sometimes even making the fears worse so tip number 1 is practice facing your fears in situations that are like for example 10 to 50 on that anxiety level scale but instead do them very often this is a much smarter way to go about desensitizing our fears because it builds confidence at the same time I can put a link in the description box to the video where I talk more about the idea behind this number to realize that what we say and do does not have to be perfect when we suffer from social anxiety or even just regular shyness we often feel like what we are saying or doing somehow is not good enough just because it’s coming from us but realize that not everything that people say or do has to be super smart funny or entertaining in fact small talk is supposed to be just saying something it’s just mostly crap when you think about it spend the next few days thinking about that when you listen to people talk is everything they say super funny super intelligent entertaining and interesting no it is not so wide and we feel that everything we say have to be perfect it doesn’t make any sense look most people like to talk about themselves and just having someone there that is quiet and listening to them feels fantastic to them there are even many who hire therapists paying them only because it’s so hard finding people who really listen to us nowadays so why do we feel the need that we have to do all the talking and be entertaining and that’s only rude and if you are sitting with a group of people talking and you hear that they really do have super intelligent conversations and you feel that you have nothing to add to it and you start feeling like you are not as smart as them then remember that we are all good at different things and right now they are talking about some subject that they are good at and it just so happens that it’s not your favorite subject at that moment so in conclusion we have a distorted picture that everything we say and do has to be perfect but it doesn’t so number two is realize that it’s unrealistic and there is no need for that who likes perfect people anyway who almost no one number three realize that you do not need anyone’s approval you don’t need to explain why you feel or a certain way or why your hands might be a bit shaky or why you have the opinions you have you don’t need other people’s approval of you you don’t need anyone’s approval except from yourself you need your own approval and realizing this is important for feeling okay with yourself number four having a confident body language always try to keep an open posture and a confident body language you will look more secure and confident this way but that’s not the point you see the point is that by using your body like a confident person would it will also make you feel more confident yes you see how we think affects our bodies and postures but it also works the other way around that is how we use our bodies also affect the way we feel so by keeping an open posture you will lower your anxiety levels think of someone that is very confident and try to imitate their way of using the body it could be someone you know or someone you have seen on TV an actor or a politician for example number five take the edge off with some extra help in order to make it easier for you in social situations there is nothing wrong with using anxiety supplements to take the edge off the anxiety by doing this it will also be easier for you to remember how and what you were supposed to think in other words the mental tools if we are having extreme high levels of anxiety it is common that our minds go completely blind and so we can’t even remember how and what we were supposed to be practicing when it comes to using our thoughts I have written an article about all the anxiety supplements I have found to work best for me during my years of struggling with social anxiety and if you are interested I can put a link to that article in the description box under this video just click that link and go read about them okay that’s it for today remember to subscribe that you’ll get notified when I release new videos shortly on anxiety and how to deal with social anxiety thanks for watching have a happy and awesome day..

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