How To Not Suck At Socializing

How To Not Suck At Socializing

What comes to mind when you hear the term social networking? Meeting real people in the real world — performing ACTUAL social networking — is a common anxiety that touches everyone. Here are five things that will help you not suck at socializing.

Rather than the usual shyness advice I want to make sure you learn from people who have really gone through it. Like struggled with social anxiety for decade and come out on the other side level of gone through it. If this is your first visit to Social Professor make sure you check out the shy to social page and grab the free audiobook ‘how to talk to anyone’ which is going to turn your life around.

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today’s their the ideas brought to you by Delhi hub calm hi I’m Nikki Qian you’re watching the daily idea what comes to mind when you hear the term social networking myspace Facebook okay let’s take the internet out of the picture now without hyperventilating or popping your mom is NX think about social networking does your heart rate increase you need an extra swipe of deodorant believe it or not years ago people would actually meet face to face and have conversations meeting real people in the real world performing actual social networking is a common anxiety that touches everyone in fact thirteen percent of the general population will qualify as having social anxiety disorder at some point in their lifetime well the crack team of researchers at the daily idea can’t stand the idea of our viewers being in that thirteen percent so they hit the speed dating circuit hung out at bars and crashed weddings and took notes we deciphered their scribblings and today present to you five things that will help you not suck at socializing first strike up conversation sure this is the hardest one to tackle if you’re a little people shy remember the other people the social event are there to be social too they want you to break the ice ask what they do for a living and the conversation will take on a life of its own if you don’t start the conversation with someone you want to meet you might get stuck talking with someone you don’t look for the little things these are those chance encounters like crossing paths of the doorway if someone smiles or nods at you smile or nod back when you run into them later the ice is already broken stick out your hand and introduce yourself number three dress the part no one wants to socialize with the disheveled skater Punk of the young business leaders luncheon now we certainly don’t want to imply you can’t add a splash of individuality but try not to stand out like a sore thumb the fourth tip to not suck at socializing is to remember conversations take to not just you those are another person involved while you might very well occur deeply about the mac vs pc war no one is interested in listening to a five minute lecture on anything remember other people like to talk about what interests them when they stumble across something that you don’t know much about ask they’ll feel smart sharing their knowledge but more importantly they’ll feel like the center of your attention a surefire way to keep them involved in the conversation number five keep open body language okay which pose looks more open and inviting this or this if you look friendly people will think you are friendly close body language arms folded frowning not making eye contact with people is an immediate turn off by opening your body language moving around the room making eye contact with others smiling you’re opening yourself to the possibility of meeting new people and well that’s kind of the point isn’t it of course there’s one more tip that makes social networking in the real world a heck of a lot easier than it sounds boos yeah I’m kidding just remember to relax and be yourself so get yourself pumped for that singles mixer hold your chin up and be confident at the networking luncheon you’re ready to apply your mad social networking skills to something besides a website and that’s another daily idea you you..

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  1. Well for me, when somebody starts a conversation with me who isn’t a family member or a close friend, I start panicking. I just get extremely nervous and I try to stop the conversation as soon as I can. I don’t want to be like this though, but I’m a 16 year old who spends every second he can on the internet or playing video games. I can’t brake out of this habit now, it seems too late. As you say it’s about being yourself, I don’t think that’ll work, because “myself” is just a boring nerd.


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