How Does One Overcome Social Shyness And Gain Confidence In Making New Friends And Talking To Strangers?
This is Major cage, a smart guy who believed in the army but hates actual combat. He knows in warfare you can die do he avoids it and immerses himself in administrative work.
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He did everything to avoid combat so he has zero combat experience. However in the movie, a meteor hits Germany bringing a score of horrible aliens with it.
These aliens are super fast and comes in two colors – yellow and blue. If you kill the yellow, it’s okay. If you kill the blue, it’s not okay because the mother alien who happens to have the power of time just starts the day all over again while keeping the memory of your attack. So if you kill a blue, you are actually doing the aliens a favor by showing them the future.
This power makes the fight with the aliens hard. To combat this, the general decided to take all his army to face the aliens in one super fight, and little wimpy major Cage couldn’t wiggle himself out of this one.
He was captured and put in a combat suit designed to fight the aliens. See the horror in his face.
Because he had no combat experience, he died a few minutes after landing into the War zone but not after he accidentally killed a blue alien and got infected with its blood. So he didn’t die but went back instead to a day before that instead. The blood gave him the power of the blue alien and can’t be killed anymore.
So what happens is that each time he is murdered by the aliens, he goes back to the day before that. And since he can’t stop the general from sending him to the front even though he warned him, he died and relived that day hundreds of times.
What do you think happened?
Can you see any horror in there? You bet not. Because the more he relived the day, the more he realized he had nothing to fear and got really good at killing the aliens. He learned their patterns, where they would be and if they killed him, all he had to do was anticipate them tomorrow.
He knew if he died, it’s a favor not a sentence. And he could just come back tomorrow to kill the alien once again.
Cage story might seem totally unrelated to social anxiety and shyness but that is where you would be wrong. We actually have more in common with him than you think.
We are all like Cage and every stranger around us are like those yellow aliens. We are so afraid to get into contact with them (war zone) so we don’t get rejected or look awkward (get killed.). However the fact is we are all infected with the blue, we won’t die from the rejection.
Rejection and awkwardness is actually a painful favor. With each rejection, our confidence rises and we learn from our mistakes.
Trying and failing gives us information on how to behave (attack) with more brutal efficiency in the future. So there really isn’t anything complex about beating shyness.
You only need to take action and yeah expect to fail just like Cage does. Believe you’ll mess up but with each messing up, you’ll see there is nothing to be afraid of, you’ll learn more about the intricacies of influencing people. Just take action and see what works. See what gets you killed and what kills them. You’ll get to Sharpen your skills – small talk, jokes, smiles and listening with brutal efficiency.
You become a badass once you start to live, reject and repeat.
I tell people all the time, you don’t need books to overcome shyness. Fuck! You don’t need a therapist that will listen to you for $300 per hour. You only need someone that will force you to take action over and over again. It’s better to pay your friend $5 to force you to talk to your crush than buying a book or meditating for 16 hours.
Just as Richard Branson said –
You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over.
Expose yourself to the monster you think are surrounding you and you’ll realize they are all friends waiting to happen once you hack them with the right tools and efficiency.
P. S – If you are motivated however, you can take this free course on action taking.
This answer originally appeared on this Quora question on Shyness.
Potential And Kinetic Energy Lesson For Kids
oh you have a lot of energy do you know what is energy yes you are right energy is the ability to do work okay there are many sources of energy for example Sun wind water etc and yes energy also comes from your muscles let me tell you a secret do you know energy cannot be created or destroyed it can only be stored or transferred oh you look confused let me explain that further all energy in this world exists in two forms one is called potential energy and the other is called kinetic energy remember potential energy is stored energy in the object whereas kinetic energy is energy of motion let’s see few examples of potential energy have you seen a catapult it has so much stored energy that it can throw stones to distant places also look at this big rock on the slope if it falls down it can do a lot of damage it has a lot of potential energy which means a lot of stored energy there are three types of potential energy let’s look at each type see this stone on the top of the mountain has gravitational potential energy this is also called potential energy of an object due to its position now look at this this is due to stored energy of the spring ah this is a battery this contains chemical potential energy it can light a bulb now let’s look at kinetic energy see this the stone is falling down now it has kinetic energy the potential energy has changed into kinetic energy now look at this pendulum it shows clear example of potential and kinetic energy if you hold the pendulum on one side it has potential energy but as you release it the potential energy gets converted to kinetic energy so stored energy and motion energy it is stored energy and motion energy so now you understand energy good then keep dancing remember potential energy is stored energy in the object whereas kinetic energy is energy of motion look at this big rock on the slope if it falls down it can do a lot of damage it has a lot of potential energy which means a lot of stored energy now let’s look at guy netic energy see this the stone is falling down now it has kinetic energy the potential energy has changed into kinetic energy so you’re going to www. minettis. com rezaian videos Oh it also has lots of interesting facts in Power. Point presentations for children..