How Do I Stop Being So Shy To Touch My Boyfriend?

Dear Jane,

You were like me years ago!

I was very introverted and shy, but if you allow yourself to open up, you really don’t know what you’re missing. Showing and receiving affection is the best thing ever!

I wish it hadn’t taken so long to overcome my shyness. With age and experience, I’ve learnt to work on my fears, now I always hug and kiss (on cheeks) people I know. It takes time to trust people, but unless your boyfriend has given you a reason not to, then love with an open heart. Sure there’s no guarantee that you won’t get hurt, but you’d be missing out on life if you put up barriers for anyone to get close. He may also misinterpret the lack of affection, as perhaps you not liking him.

Unless your boyfriend is already aware, just tell him you’re scared. The reverse, if a guy told me that, I’d be cool with it, and take things slowly, at a pace that suits him. As long as I knew he did like me, the rest we can work at tackling together.



This answer originally appeared on this Quora question on Shyness.

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