7 Things That Make People Instantly Like You
7 Things That Make People Instantly Like You
Hey loves. Ever wanted to make a real good first impression on someone? A new friend? Work mates? A boss? A crush? Well I have made a video explaining 7 ways in which you can make a good first impression. Psychology has really helped me in my life and now I want to help you guys.
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hey guys it’s Elena and today’s video is going to be 7 things that make people and stealing like you for those of you who aren’t aware I study psychology at university right now and I learn a lot about people’s first impressions of one another the way that we react when we meet someone the way we think when we meet someone so I really hope that this information that I have learned from University can be put into an entertaining video that you guys like so let’s just jump right into Theo the first thing that you guys have to understand is when you meet someone you are constantly trying to recognize their behavior we do try to judge people and kind of put all the kind of behavior into a category um so that we know what to expect of that person if we happen to see them again so the first tip that I have is when you don’t take yourself too seriously if you’ve been around someone who’s quite uptight and they get stroppy at things you know it’s not that fun to be around so if you can incorporate stories about times when you can laugh at yourself I think it’s a good conversation story starter kind of thing but it also shows the person that you’re not afraid to laugh at yourself and it shows that you don’t take life too seriously the second line is when you’re a good listener this is something that people will differently pick up on if you guys were talking to me and I was just kind of you know sitting you like this looking around you’re not going to feel that I’m directly involved in the conversation you’re not going to feel as though I really care if you can listen this is another big helpful tip to make people instantly like you this next one is talking about positive things I think this is something that a lot of people don’t really realize because I’ve heard and a lot of you know first kind of conversations at uni between people they kind of want to share how negative things are like how boring school workers and it’s so hard to get up in the morning and how hard life is like it’s just a behavior there it’s kind of puts people off because you don’t seem that heavy also try to avoid controversial topics like politics or religion stay away from that because if you’ve got contrasting views some people can distance themselves from you just speak positive the next one is eye contact now this kind of goes hand in hand with good listening it’s a form of body language you know if I started all my videos like ah hey guys and you know continue kind of talking around I’m obviously not going to have many viewers am I always remember that eye contact is a really really big thing because you can kind of start to form a friendship by acknowledging each other’s faces if that makes sense the next one I hope can be quite a good tip for you guys and that is people love talking about themselves so when you are trying to impress someone remember to talk about the other person try to keep it on a 70% and 30% ratio cemani percent of them talking and 30% of you that way they feel as though they can open up to you a little more you’re learning as much as you can about them yeah it’s really going to appear that you are interested in their life another body language tip is your posture you want to have an open posture if I was kind of sitting there like this it doesn’t show again that I’m very interested you don’t really take me seriously at all if I was going to sit like this so sitting with a open posture facing them directing all your body to them is building that level of communication and Trust in the last one we can’t forget is to smile obviously you’re not going to want to talk to someone who doesn’t even want to move the corners of their mouth is this very entertaining to watch like this suddenly I appear more open and this theory actually it don’t smile scare me now I’m just going to give you guys an extra tip from psychology that’s kind of going to get into the other person’s mind so the tip is research says that if you copy someone’s actions right after they have done one so say if I folded my arms and then the person I was talking to folded their arms me doing it first I feel as though I can relate to you more I can feel so we’ve got this level of understanding and bond and Trust forming so say if you were talking to someone and you’re really trying to impress them if they you know pull their hair back you know just kind of combing through they hear you do the same it’s kind of a subconscious thing that the other person isn’t going to know directly that you’re copying them you know you don’t want to do it straight away you just kind of want to solely brush through the hair so yeah I hope you guys enjoyed seeing this video those are all my tips trust me they are really really good and really really easy to incorporate into your life if you’re going to a new school when you’re trying to make friends if you’re at a new job or something and you’re trying to make friends with your co workers or anything like that I hope that these tips that I’ve given you can help you get to where you want to be with another person and yeah come tell me about it in the comments if you get success from my tips so I think that’s the end of the video today thank you guys so much for watching this video and I’ll see you in my next one bye..