22 Asperger’S Signs And Traits In Adults

22 Asperger’S Signs And Traits In Adults

Common signs or traits of Apserger’s Syndrome in adults.

Many of the signs and symptoms in the list below may be hidden in adults. For example, adults with Asperger’s Syndrome may experience few angry meltdowns in public if they have learnt to avoid the situations that trigger them.

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Additionally many adults with Asperger’s eventually learn how to ‘fit in’ by observing social behaviour and copying it.

1. Misunderstood most people just dont get you.

Feeling different or as if you come from another planet.

2. Sensory overwhelm sometimes your senses are too sharp.

Sight, touch, sound, hearing and sense of smell may be uncomfortably strong at times.

3. Angry explosion meltdowns may happen when triggered or feeling trapped.

Although you mostly avoid situations like this, it can happen that when overwhelmed or extremely uncomfortable you explode with rage.

4. Crying meltdowns may happen when overwhelmed.

After exploding in anger you may feel distraught and cry uncontrollably.

5. Silent shutdowns times when you cant speak or socialise.

Sometimes you may prevent explosions by going silent and withdrawn. When this happens you want to get away from people and to be quiet until you are calm again.

6. Avoidance not going places you imagine will be hard for you socially.

To avoid the meltdowns, sneaky avoidance habits may develop. There may be many situations you avoid out of the fear of being overwhelmed or uncomfortable. However, since the avoidance is sneaky it is often hard to admit it about oneself.

7. Head person logical person who thinks and analyses.

You are pragmatic and make decisions based on analysis.

8. Pattern finder the way you look at life you see patterns in everything.

Having the ability to connect the dots to come up with original ideas or ways of understanding people and the world.

9. Open book when comfortable, extremely open and honest.

More open than people in general when feeling comfortable and accepted.

10. Bluntness and directness your words are straight talking.

You favour literal and direct communication. You may be confused when people say things they dont mean e.g. false politeness.

11. Normal friendship is alienating feeling alone and empty when being friends in the normal way.

Being friends in the normal way is either something that you cant do or it is social behaviour you had to learn by observing.

12. Dissolving boundaries when you find a friend boundaries dissolve. You may be too clingy or bossy.

Your real friends are a joy to spend time with and they understand you. However, relationships with such people may be rare. Close friendships may lack healthy boundaries and you may have been described as cling, bossy or controlling by a friend or partner.

13. Awkward about social touch you dont really touch other people or if you do you dont really like it.

The exception is that you may ONLY enjoy touch with your romantic partner. Otherwise social touch such as hugging, patting on the shoulder etc. is all stuff that has to be learned and forced, rather than comes naturally.

14. Monotone or hypnotic speech patterns.

Normal speaking voice is monotone or hypnotic.

15. Strong self-discipline you keep to your chosen routines.

Extremely focused and dedicated to the things you chose to do or work on.

16. Mind going blank and empty may happen when surprised or overwhelmed.

The feeling of the mind going blank is like a frozen empty pause in which the mind is not able to think for at least a second, though it feels like longer it lasts for longer inside.

17. Child-like imagination a part of you never grows old.

When feeling comfortable you express a childlike quality, no matter what age you are.

18. Bad with hair you just cant do it!

Not good at styling hair. Hair may feel uncomfortable at times.

19. Eccentric interests unusual hobbies or collections.

Has specialist research hobbies or daily activities. These can be about anything though are often something unusual.

20. Repetitive eating habits you always eat the same thing or follow a rigid diet.

Either prefers to eat the same thing most of the time or follows a specialist diet that restricts certain foods. Chooses an eating plan for various health or personal reasons and then sticks with it (isnt tempted to go off the diet like most people are).

21. Makes funny noises when comfortable the sounds you create carry meaning in communication.

Plays with the voice and accent or speaks with sounds instead of words. When feeling comfortable and accepted may make wet noises, high pitched noises or other noises to express feelings in the moment rather than use words.

22. Inflexible about time and plans may freak out if plans change unexpectedly.

Doesnt like plans being changed. Lateness can trigger anxiety.


misunderstood most people just don’t get you to sensory overwhelm sometimes your sense is a 2 sharp 3 angry explosion meltdowns may happen when triggered or feeling trapped for crying meltdowns may happen when overwhelmed 5 silent shutdowns times when you can’t speak or socialize 6 avoidance not going to places you imagine will be hard for you 7 head person logical person who thinks and analyzes eight pattern finder the way you look at life you see patterns in everything 9 open book when comfortable extremely open and honest 10 bluntness and directness your words are straight talking 11 normal friendship is alienating feeling alone and empty when being friends in the normal way 12 dissolving boundaries when you find a friend boundaries dissolve you may be too clingy or bossy 13 awkward about social touch you don’t really touch other people or if you do you don’t really like it 14 monotone or hypnotic speech patterns 15 strong self discipline you keep to your chosen routines 16 mind going blank and empty may happen when surprised or overwhelmed 17 childlike imagination a part of you never grows old 18 bad with hair you just can’t do it 19 eccentric interests unusual hobbies or collections 20 repetitive eating habits you always see the same thing or follow a rigid diet 21 makes funny noises when comfortable the sounds you create carry meaning in communication 22 inflexible about time and plans may freak out if plans change unexpectedly thanks for watching and be sure to click the video description for more info and relevant links about the signs of Asperger’s syndrome..

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  1. wow, I am 52, male and I must say as someone with aspergers, this was utterly accurate. great job. by the way, aspergers gets HARDER as you get older as ones tolerance levels or buffers to irritations get weaker. I find I need more alone time to keep my head above water.

  2. i dont like people touching or hugging me. i feel really awkward and never can get use to it. i also eat the same thing over and over.

  3. I have most of these, except 15, 20, 21, and 22. Do I have Asperger’s? (I haven’t been diagnosed.) I think I may be an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person).

  4. For others with Aspergers… You may have noticed a few missing from list …..
    Hard to look into others eyes…
    Basic conversation must be learned and is difficult…..
    Some stiff or rough clothes fabrics cannot be tolerated on the skin. Or your clothes must be very tight, or very loose. NO in between because it ” touches you” all day.
    Missing meals sometimes because you forget that you have to eat to live. Eating can feel like a chore for some.
    Forgetting basic hygiene. Again.. This can feel like a chore that others may have to remind you to do. ( bathing, brushing teeth, wash hands, comb hair, wear deodorant, wash clothes etc..

    Autism is VERY difficult to detect in high functioning people. You may work with some or even be married to one without realizing it. We are people. Everyone should know the symptoms before they judge, laugh, or get angry with an Aspie. It hard and exhausting to be a great actor everyday all day, Just to appear normal/
    But we are loyal, funny, friendly, and incredibly intelligent. Those are the bright sides of Autism/Aspergers.

  5. while a non aspergers person can also have these traits, I think a good indicator is if you have difficulty initiating and maintaining a conversation…not just shyness, but real difficulty as in your mind can’t process what to say next or how to behave.

  6. I think a lot of it has to do with the natural diversity of people. The world has changed so that only people who are socially adept, and good at reading and absorbing information are considered normal and healthy. Of course these skills are needed in today’s society. But the need to be highly social and emotionally communicative would actually be a serious problem 150 years ago when most people lived on isolated farms or worked all day without anyone to talk to. Or who worked 12 hour shifts in a dark coalmine with very few, if any others. Further back in history, men were hunters, the need to talk was not helpful when your lunch depended on being perfectly silent for maybe days at a time. A good hunter has good sensory perception and is highly sensitive to noise. Nobody cared if you had dyspraxia or dyslexia. Most of these syndromes
    are created to diagnose people who don’t fit into this super-unnatural 21st Century.

  7. 16: The blankness for many of us is choice paralysis. We think of too many responses and we can’t pick the correct answer fast enough.

  8. My Asperger’s Syndrome is the reason why I’m in university. My obsession with routines and plans has made me in to an extremely motivated, organized and hard working person which will put me in good stead when achieving my dream career in being a an art therapist full time and a author/illustrator part time. My parents never treated me any differently just because I had Asperger’s, and I got plans to do voluntary work abroad and travel, do more driving lessons and get a car (I had some two years ago and I was doing well but I had to put them on hold due to my college work), and get a house in a different part of the country 🙂 I have proved myself and may have my difficulties here and there but tt just goes to show that anyone can achieve anything if they put their mind to it through hard work and determination 🙂

  9. 11. I’ve never ever had a real friend in my entire life. I see other people with their friends laughing and having great conversation and they look so comfortable. when I am with somebody I can’t think of much to say and I feel no connection at all.


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